“IT WAS MY FAULT” — AGNETHA FÄLTSKOG IN TEARS AFTER 32 YEARS: THE PRIVATE PAIN OF HER SECOND MARRIAGE SHE COULD NEVER SPEAK ABOUT UNTIL NOW
For more than three decades, Agnetha Fältskog — the quiet, luminous voice of ABBA — has remained almost completely silent about the end of her second marriage to Swedish surgeon Tomas Sonnenfeld. Their divorce in 1993, handled privately and without headlines, left fans with questions that Agnetha never felt ready to answer. Until now.
In a rare and deeply emotional reflection, Agnetha has spoken candidly about the weight she has quietly carried since that chapter of her life closed. Her voice trembles as she admits a sentence she has never said publicly before:
“It was my fault.”
But this is not a confession of wrongdoing.
It is a confession of emotion — the quiet guilt of a woman who felt she could not give as much of herself as she wished, at a time when life, fame, and her own fragile balance made everything overwhelming.
Agnetha explains that she and Tomas cared for one another deeply. There was no scandal, no anger, no betrayal — only the growing recognition that they were living in two different worlds. The extraordinary intensity of her international fame, her longing for privacy, and her desire to protect her children all weighed heavily on her heart. She now acknowledges that she retreated emotionally long before she found the courage to speak honestly about it.
“One evening,” she recalls softly, “I realized I had been trying to be strong for everyone but myself. And that wasn’t fair to him. He deserved more than I could give.”
The sentence she calls “the hardest I ever spoke in my life” is one she still cannot repeat publicly — not out of shame, but out of respect. Tomas Sonnenfeld has always guarded his private life, and Agnetha honors that discretion even today. What she does reveal is the feeling behind the words: a moment of truth between two people who cared, but who could no longer walk the same road.
Her tears do not come from regret, but from compassion — for herself, for Tomas, and for anyone who has ever faced the quiet heartbreak of realizing that love cannot always be sustained by hope alone.
Fans have long wondered why Agnetha withdrew so completely from the spotlight in the years that followed. Her reflection now offers a gentle, human explanation. She was healing. She was learning to forgive herself. And she was discovering that even “super troupers” — the performers who light up the world — sometimes lose their way in the dark.
What makes her story so moving is not tragedy, but honesty. Agnetha does not present herself as perfect, nor does she rewrite history. Instead, she speaks with a maturity shaped by time, gratitude, and emotional clarity. She does not blame Tomas. She does not blame circumstance. She simply acknowledges that love can be fragile, and that sometimes the bravest thing a person can do is admit they are hurting.
Her final words are the ones that linger:
“Some memories still ache. But I carry them with love, not regret.”
In sharing this after 32 years of silence, Agnetha Fältskog has given fans something far more meaningful than a sensational revelation. She has offered a glimpse into her heart — a heart that has endured fame, loss, love, and the complex beauty of being human.
And in her gentle truth, she reminds us all that even the brightest stars sometimes struggle to find their own light.